A *lot* more couples are performing it than you almost certainly understand.

I had no idea what to call it when I first floated the idea of an open relationship to the man who is now my husband. I want to paint the scene: we had been in university, consuming at the most popular sushi buffet—I happened to be 19, he had been 21, and now we have been together for four years—and although we felt totally protected in broaching the subject, i did son’t precisely learn how to phrase it. Sooner or later, we blurted out: “What could you consider us remaining in a relationship but in addition seeing others?” Michael’s very very first effect had been, happily, mostly fascination, once we had talked plenty over time about whether we had been passing up on life-changing experiences by being together from such an early age. My proposal—to get outside our relationship without really offering through to that which we had—appealed to him.

With each of us up to speed, we quickly noticed that—lol—we actually had no concept what we had been doing. We knew we wanted to experiment sexually with other people, but no body had ever admitted if you ask me which they had been non-monogamous (a phrase we just discovered several years later on), therefore we had no option but to stumble ahead without having any labels or mentorship.

Now, 11 years and countless hookups outside my wedding later on, i could confidently say that I’m in a situation to assist you navigate the entire world of ethical and fluid non-monogamy. Continue reading →